Imagine the situation: you and your spouse have raised what you think to be a good and proper son. You know that you’ve tried to impart your faith to him and you have certainly seen God bless him. Then he comes home one day and introduces you to his fiancee. Fiancee? No, that’s not right. He has his eye on a girl he wants to be his fiancee. Only, he needs your help to meet her and hopefully get the ball rolling. Your interest piqued, you ask who the girl is. When he tells you, you’ve heard of her. At this point in her life, she’s not very good wife material. Moreover, many of her beliefs conflicts with yours and his. You ask if there are better prospects and you begin to explain. Your son hears you out but then replies, “Mom and Dad, you have to understand, it’s love at first sight!”
This sounds like youthful indiscretion, does it not? Your son seems to be making a decision based on physical characteristics of the young lady. He doesn’t know her very well, if at all. To make matters worse, he doesn’t want to wait. He wants to get married now. He’s trying to get you involved in his grand scheme. What do you do? Do you say, “No,” because you suspect he’s being rash and immature, as young men his age often are? Let me recommend that before you respond so quickly, that you take the time to really, truly seek God’s direction. While the logical conclusion is obvious, your son is about to make a mistake, you could be very, very wrong. After all, it could be God’s intent for that marriage to be pursued.
Samson went down to Timnah, and at Timnah he saw one of the daughters of the Philistines. Then he came up and told his father and mother, “I saw one of the daughters of the Philistines at Timnah. Now get her for me as my wife.” But his father and mother said to him, “Is there not a woman among the daughters of your relatives, or among all our people, that you must go to take a wife from the uncircumcised Philistines?” But Samson said to his father, “Get her for me, for she is right in my eyes.”
His father and mother did not know that it was from the Lord, for he was seeking an opportunity against the Philistines. At that time the Philistines ruled over Israel.
– Judges 14:1-4, ESV
The scenario I described is Biblical as these verses attest. Samson wanted to pick a woman whose values were likely very different than his own (later events would confirm this). He didn’t know her very well, probably just met briefly, but he wanted to marry her. It is understandable why his mom and dad balked. What they didn’t know was that God had placed this desire on Samson’s heart in order to set in motion a series of events which would help the Israelites against the Philistines. The logical conclusion from their perspective was incorrect. This wasn’t just youthful indiscretion. This was a passion that ultimately was derived from God’s hand.
The key here is that looking with the limited amount of information that Samson’s parents had, it doesn’t make any sense, but when looking at it from the perspective of God, it does. The problem is we have the perspective of Samson’s parents. We don’t have an all-seeing, all-knowing position like our God. Therefore, it stands to reason that what doesn’t seem logical to us is very much so when you have all the facts. The scenario I gave here is one of a son wanting to marry a woman who probably wasn’t a good choice. If you think Samson’s parents were upset, imagine Hosea’s! What this set of verses should teach us is not to dismiss any situation out of hand. Gather what facts you can and then walk into God’s throne room through prayer. If you rely on only what you know, you’ll make some big mistakes. You’ll miss what God wants to do. That’s not where we want to be. Take every situation of significance before the Lord, even if you already think you know what the answer is. You might be surprised to find you’re wrong.