Abram didn’t wait on God and he agreed to Sarai’s plan for him to have a child with her servant, Hagar. When the baby was born, we are told that Hagar looked down upon Sarai. Sarai, of course, appeals to Abram to do something. Abram instead puts it back on Sarai to deal with the situation. Sarai responds by treating Hagar harshly and Hagar leaves the household.
The angel of the Lord found her by a spring of water in the wilderness, the spring on the way to Shur. And he said, “Hagar, servant of Sarai, where have you come from and where are you going?” She said, “I am fleeing from my mistress Sarai.” The angel of the Lord said to her, “Return to your mistress and submit to her.” The angel of the Lord also said to her, “I will surely multiply your offspring so that they cannot be numbered for multitude.”
Genesis 16:7-10, ESV
Based on what we are told in Scripture, Hagar’s attitude is the major reason why the relationship between her and Sarai broke down. Hagar began looking down on Sarai and when Abram gave Sarai the green light to do what she wanted, she abused Hagar. In the end, both women are responsible for the broken family situation. Certainly, what Hagar did was sin. Yet in the verses above we see God acting compassionately towards her. He asks her to return and submit to Sarai. In return, God promised to multiply her descendants. We know later that God intended the child He promised to Abram to come from Sarai. Yet God still extended this promise to Hagar.
Given what happened, it’s hard to come to the conclusion that Hagar earned the reward God promised. We would agree that the way Sarai treated Hagar was wrong. It was sin. But enduring sin because of your own sin is not grounds for a reward. So we can say that in spite of Hagar’s own sin, God still rewarded her. God still sent His angel to intercept her and keep her from going away. This is a clear illustration of God’s grace: unmerited, undeserved favor.
Be encouraged, because even in our sin, God is still going to be God. He is a compassionate, kind, and loving God. Sometimes, He allows us to go through a bad situation to the bitter end because we need that pain, that suffering, to grow. But even when He allows such things to happen, He is still with us. He is still protecting us. He is still ensuring that we we will spend eternity with Him. Sometimes, He allows us to go through a bad situation because others need it or they will need the us who will come out the other side. Be encouraged, because again God is with us in these situations. Be encouraged, because despite our sin, God is still the good Father who looks after His children.